This is Part 3 of 5 in a series on new year’s resolutions. If you have not done so, I invite you to start by reading Parts 1 and 2 .

The reason new year’s resolutions can seem so daunting is that we don’t always know where to start. As humans, it is in our nature to strive for something, but we don’t always stop and listen to our inner selves to find out exactly what that something is.

But when we listen to all that parts that are vying for our attention, we may find that we get different, sometimes contradictory answers about what we truly want. A part of us may want safety, while another wants more thrills. How do we reconcile those parts of us? Well, what if I told you that in all this confusion, there remains a part of us that remains unchanged? That part of us is called the Self.

I have been there myself. Not knowing how to listen to this deep Self, and thinking that I want too much. But I’ve come to one conclusion: The problem isn’t that I want too much. The problem is I don’t want it all. The question is, what is my “all?”

Instead of doing the work to get to the bottom of this, it is much easier to think we want what society tells us we should want (a bigger house, a faster car, the newest diet…). But keeping up with the Joneses won’t necessarily fulfill you in the long run. 

Instead, what if instead of listening to what the outside world tells us we should want, we instead went inside and tapped into what you are genuinely passionate about. Perhaps this passion can even help you set the right resolutions; resolutions that will help guide you towards what you truly want in this life! Perhaps this passion can even help you do the work, day to day, that will allow you to stick to these resolutions!

As a kick start I invite you to make a list of the aspects of your life you’d like to explore. Some common aspects are health, work, hobbies, spirituality, family and friends, etc. What different aspects can you come up with that would create a well rounded and successful life? What are the things that are already making you happy, which, when nurtured, cultivated, and intensified, have the biggest potential to make your grain of sand the best it can be? What aspect, if you were to give it just a bit more attention could have an impact on your overall well-being?

Once you have asked yourself these questions, you can come up with a couple of small, simple, achievable actions that can turn into regular habits, and that will help you get to your “all.” Here are some examples:

  • Let’s say you want to get back to a habit that has fallen by the wayside. Let’s use practicing gratitude as an example. You can start by thinking of one thing (just one!) that you are grateful for, every morning when you wake up. If you have a hard time turning it into a habit, you can try to attach that habit to another one you already have. Make a point to do this during your morning shower for example.
  • If you want to spend more time connecting with a person you haven’t talked to in a while, schedule time for a weekly fifteen-minute call and put it in your calendar. After a few weeks, you won’t have to wait for the calendar alarm, you’ll know it’s the time to call this person.

What came up for you as you read this article? What was the value in stepping back just for a moment to consider what is most important to you in this life?

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